All about Love, Life, Relationships

Most of us think that love can move mountains, this may be true, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that love alone will help you reach forever. A lot of times, people tend to think that a relationship is easy as you love him/her and he/she loves you back, this isn’t that case, even the greatest of relationships crumble down, because they fail to give stresses to the other important aspects of the relationship.

Communication

This has been overly talked about, but most of us don’t get it. It is not just speaking words, exchanging talks; it is a matter of understanding each other’s needs and desires. Most of us fail to understand that communication is a commitment in itself. You just don’t listen, but you comprehend, you just don’t talk but you express.

In a relationship, you have to be honest, whatever your thoughts are you have to communicate them. We can’t just predict that our partner needs this, needs that and vice versa, sometime we end up assuming causing our relationship to fail. You thought that she’d rather want this or that, but you can always ask. In a loving relationship, never feel the burden that you should know all about your partner, you have to ask.

Effort

Effort is pushing yourself just a little bit more. Most of us are thinking that as long as everything is okay, we could be stagnant in it without doing anything out of the extraordinary. To make it burn more, you better throw in more logs. Relationships thrive in passion, if you don’t have that in you, then you will really get nowhere. Look at this, when love is new, we sacrifice a lot, we show the person that we love that he/she means everything to us, but the longer it goes, the fire wanes, we become too lazy to do anything, even those little things, like fetching them from work, surprising his/her favourite meal.

If our relationships become a little older, it doesn’t give us the right to stop giving it more of ourselves. A relationship is not like the sun, self-sustaining, it demands our efforts, even to the smallest things, if you want it to last, then make it last.

Time

The time we spend is almost equal to the value we give it. If you give your relationship 30 minutes of your time in a day, then it is the only worth as much as that. Some say it is not the quantity of time, it is the quality of time, I definitely agree. But if you can give both why settle for one? Relationships are nurtured; it can’t hang alone for a specific moment that it had experienced. We often make excuses that it really doesn’t matter how long we really spend it with the ones we love as long as we are giving our best, but it is not like that, it really isn’t, this is just a mechanism created, so that we could give our minds the peace it needs. In reality we could give more of our time, because if it matters, we make it matter in all aspect, quantity and quality.

Yes, it may be true that most of us are consumed by the amount of time spent in our offices, or what have we, but we have to realize, that if we really value our relationship, and want to make it last, would you really spend just 30 minutes to be with the one you love and reason out that as long as its quality it’s enough? I really don’t think so. Think about it, if it matters then make it feel that it matters.

Affection

It is the flame itself, if it’s not there then your relationship won’t stand a chance against the test of time. Affection does not rely on physicality alone but also on the emotional aspect. Those hugs, kisses, holding hands, it will mean more if it is done with utmost sincerity. Affection is underrated, and misunderstood. Affection is more than that physical presence, but it is the warmth sincere loving and caring. You can kiss someone and still lack affection. It is outpouring, self-emptying expression of what love is to us.

Most relationships die because the flame has gone out. Because we lack affection, doesn’t necessarily mean we lack physical connection, or that physical security, the embrace, the kisses, but it is most of the time, the lack of meaning in these physical acts. Great physical chemistry will eventually wear our if it has no meaning in it, don’t kiss because you crave for it, don’t make love if it’s out of physiological need, do things because they mean something to you. Affection is the verbalizing of our deepest emotions, so don’t be drowned in physicality alone.

These are the most important keys to make your relationship last. These are only guidelines; it will rely solely on your shoulders to make the right choice, the conscious decisions, and the important actions.